Stop begging for what you want and need! 

…and start creating healthy loving relationships, reducing drama and conflict, and living your most authentic life instead.

There is a better way!

In this step-by-step Take No Shit Workshop, you’ll learn how to stop constantly fighting for what you want and need in your relationships and to let go of the fear of rejection. 

If you're ready to leave those unhealthy patterns of behavior that have affected your life and your relationships for years behind, take the first step. 
The 7-Week Masterclass
+ Private Members Area
+ Instant Digital Access
+ Group & Private Coaching
+ Interactive Tasks 
+ Habit Tracker
+ Accountability Buddies
+ BONUS! Boundaries are Sexy AF Live Write
+ BONUS! No Regrets Mini-Workshop
+ and much more!
Special First Round Feedback Member Price:

Only $27

Or name your price for a limited time! (Minimum $7)
Regular Price: $197
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Don't waste another minute taking someone else's shit.
During this introductory special you can get lifetime access to the "Take No Shit Workshop" for only $27 (or name your price)!

Quick Info: 

What's in the workshop, exactly? 
Is this the right choice for me? 
Look inside! (Learn the 5 steps to Setting a boundary—FREE!)
Is this you?
  • You do things for others out of love and care, and you resent them for not giving back in the same way. 
  • You say yes a lot, and take on the responsibilities of the world.
  • You think that most people just don't care about your needs. 
  • You're a feeler, you're super empathetic.
  • You give too much (and maybe too easily)—more than you can easily afford to give. 
  • You've been walked over and taken advantage of. 
  • You constantly compromise to avoid conflict in your relationships. 
  • You know your relationships are screwed up, but you aren't really sure why.
In short, you take too much shit.

(Let me be clear: ANY shit in your relationships is TOO MUCH). 

If so, then the Take No Shit Workshop is for you. 

you have a hard time saying "No" to people 

 I don't mean trolls on the internet, or jerkwads on dating sites (although you may have trouble saying no to them as well). 

I mean do you have a hard time saying "no" or setting and enforcing a boundary with people you care about? The people who matter? 

You find yourself continually compromising to "make things work." 

Makes sense. It can be hard to say ‘no’ to others because you feel like you’re letting that person down or in essence, rejecting them. Or not trying hard enough. 

And others know this just as well as you do. 

And many of them will use that against you. 
  • Your guilt.
  • Your desire for love and acceptance.
  • Your dislike of conflict (especially with people you care about).
And you have at least one friend or family member who has told you that you need to be more clear, that you need to stand up for yourself, that you give too much, and you need to stop letting others take advantage of you. 

(Or, maybe it's just that voice in your head telling you that setting boundaries will push people away...)

You are an amazing, loving, and empathetic person. 

You want the people around you to feel loved, cared for, and supported. And you'll do what it takes…often at the expense of your own time and resources.

And when things go wrong (because no relationship is perfect), you often find yourself shouldering the blame. 

So, you do what you're supposed to do, right? 

You read the books, you join support groups online, you ask questions, you find out your love languages (and theirs), you learn to communicate better...
So why doesn't it work?

Because it Can't work! 

Because while all of that is important and useful, and you've probably done a FANTASTIC job of learning it, if your relationship is flawed, all of those things will only prolong the inevitable, allowing you to pour even more of yourself into a relationship that CANNOT grow into what you really want. 

All great relationships are built on the same foundation: authenticity. 

If you've found yourself having to change (or to change others) in all your relationships, chances are you're most likely lacking in one particular skill...

...It's the skill that allows you to stop struggling with people you love for power.
...It's the skill that can transform a stressful or boring relationship into one filled with joy and passion.
...It's also the skill that many people find the toughest to master.

I never blame anyone for struggling with it. Because it's not your fault. (And it's probably not theirs, either.)

You don't see this modeled in your family. 
You don't see it modeled in your friends. 
You don't see it modeled in the movies. 
You don't see it modeled on TV. 

In fact, when you have actually set and maintained a boundary at any time in your life, you've probably been told that it's wrong. That you should do "what's expected," "be nice," or "do as I say." 

MOST people don't understand boundaries. 

Many of us have grown up with fuzzy boundaries. Very, very few people are taught healthy boundaries at all.

We spend our lives being controlled by others, so we learn to control others—OR—we allow others to control us in exchange for love.

Does that resonate with you? 

If so, read on. 

Here's the secret: 

For the last 15 years, I've been writing, teaching, and interviewing people around the world about what works in their relationships, and I've not only built my own successful relationship and amazing authentic life, but I've helped others do their same. 

And the secret is just three simple things:

1. It's not about "giving it your all." 

It's not about how much you give. It's knowing what to give and what to keep. And since most of us haven’t quite figured that out yet, we end up trying harder and harder each time hoping someone will notice and give back to us what we give to them. 

(Spoiler Alert: it doesn’t work.)

2. Do ONLY What is a "FUCK YEAH!" for you. 

Get rid of F*ck No! and meh in your relationships. They sap your energy and your ability to love. They create resentment and get in the way of you being authentically you (and communicating that). Live your most authentic life without fear every day. 

3. You Don’t Need To take any shit.  

Refuse their shit (and clean up your own). Say no with compassion and in a way that reduces harm and hurt feelings. Or...don't. Frankly, some people aren't worth even that extra effort. Commit to healthy loving relationships from now on, choose people who choose you. 

(Instantly recognize manipulation in yourself and others, and yeet that shit.)

BONUS! you can do this even with past trauma! 

Never fumble your boundaries again—AND teach people to treat you the way you deserve—even when you feel pressured, even if you have past trauma. Confidently and compassionately stand up for yourself, and NOT worry about what others think of you while you’re doing it.

(Note: See that I said "not worry about what others think"? Worry is something we do to be doing SOMETHING, when we want to feel control over a situation where we have no control. We'll talk about how to stop worrying about what others think of you, even when you do care, and how to balance those feelings.)
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I loved your class on boundaries and how much it opened my eyes!

I was someone who never had any boundaries and let people take advantage of me in the hopes it would make me lovable. I have been in therapy a long time and still counting, to learn better habits, and making progress!

Your class made me realize that my partner and I have never sat down and calmly explored our values and boundaries through the entire time we’ve known each other… outside of the usual physical and sexual ones. 

I started a break [with my partner] thinking I’d have to end it, but instead I’ve found tools to strengthen our connection. This is only one of the ways it has helped me, but this part means so much to me, I just had to share.

Thank you so much! 💖
Andrea D

Andrea D

People Ask Me, "Are you a therapist?" 

No. I’m not a therapist. 

I don't have a 4-year degree in psychology (or any degree, actually).

I'm just a woman who knew that something wasn't going right in my relationships, and found way to fix it—all of it. 

You read that right. 

Better boundaries are something I discovered for myself (didn't even have a name for them) after a marriage of craptaculous boundaries where I paid the price in emotional abuse, shitty self-confidence, and all my money.

I had to. 

  • I was living to please others because I thought that was love. 
  • I was putting up with hurtful comments because they were from people who loved me. 
  • I was giving too much—more than I had. 
  • I was saying "yes," because I had a hard time saying "no." 
  • I was putting others' needs and wants above my own, sacrificing to make things work. 
To make them love me. 

And it didn't work. Not in the way I was told it would. 

And not in the way I wanted.

These days, I have the best partner I could have ever imagined (better, even!), and I not only have solid boundaries myself, but I encourage them in the people I engage with in my life (my partners, my friends, and my colleagues). After all, I believe that boundaries are THE MOST IMPORTANT relationship skill. 

Now's my chance to share with you what I've learned through these years.

You don't need therapy to do this. You just need the tools and a step-by-step plan!

I have the tools and Plan you need.

I'm not only teaching this workshop, I was my first student. One thing I learned is that you can't change who you are or how you think overnight. You're not going to read a read a blog or listen to a podcast and come out the other side with an Ivy-League diploma in sexy-attractive-charming-whatever. 

You're too much a creature of habit, and it's scary to change. 

I knew I needed a solution that was more than a bunch of words thrown at the problem. I didn’t want this to be one more thing that you never got around to finishing because you were left to figure it out on your own only to find yourself frustrated or distracted by the next shiny penny.

So, I took what I knew would work and put it into one step-by-step experience that will guide you to success. 

IF YOU DO THE WORK WITH ME, it's impossible for you to fail.

Included with this Take No Shit Workshop is...

7-Week Masterclass

Each week we take a step closer to your best boundaries, making the process simple and clear. See below for the entire syllabus.

Group and Private Coaching

We have weekly group Q&A sessions with plenty of time for questions. If you're still struggling, book a one-on-one call with me.

Interactive Tasks

You'll have tasks assigned to you to help you know what needs to be done next, from taking this step or posting there, the process will be crystal clear.

Community

This entire program was built on a private community platform to make it easy for everyone to work together and support each other through the boundaries process. And no, it's not a Facebook group.

HABIT TRACKER

The Take No Shit community has a built-in Habit Tracker to help you really make the most of what you learn. I will set habits for you—and you can set and track habits of your own, to super-charge your personalized boundaries journey. 

Incubator

I have built a safe place for you to grow and test your boundaries and get feedback so that when you are ready to take action, you know it's going to work.

Here's a breakdown of what you'll learn

Take No Shit is a 7-week program that will have you confidently setting boundaries in such a way that you will finally have people paying attention, and stepping up to be the people you need and want in your life (or getting out of the way so the right people can step in)! Here is a breakdown of each weekly topic:

Week 1: Reprogramming Yourself for more love, more energy, and less Drama!

You've been “pre-programmed” for crappy boundaries and it's time to CHANGE that. You’ve been told your whole life that you have to be agreeable to loved, to give your all (or you’re selfish!), that you’re not good enough without TRYING…The people who told you that? They may have meant well, but they’re WRONG.

We'll talk about how boundaries reduce relationship drama & abuse, make you MORE lovable (not less) and give you more energy and love for the RIGHT activities (and people). During the first week of the program, we will be focusing our hearts and minds and developing a powerful mindset to help you push through when things get difficult—or when internal and external forces try to hold you back. 

Week 2: Prioritizing and Empowering Yourself

You know deep down inside who you are and how you want to live. All the shit you've taken has buried that you, and you're ready to uncover that amazing self. 

During week two, we will excavate YOU from all that and empower you in your life and your relationships by real-talking about priorities—how cognitive dissonance (the parts of you that want the exact opposite of the authentic you) holds you back and what you can do about it (and no, it's not "more willpower"). 

Week 3: Creating Your Personal YOU-SEr Guide to make communication Easy!

How does the rest of the world see you? Is it authentic to who you truly are? Or have you altered yourself to what you think others want? For most of us, it’s a bit of a mix. This week we will dig down deep into the 6 different types of boundaries, recognize what you’ve been missing in your communications (and in creating your relationships from the very beginning!), and start with 3-5 boundaries custom-tailored to YOU—your life and your relationships (your best partners and friends will LOVE THIS for you)! 💕

Week 4: Building Rules and Laws So you never give in again!

It's not enough to set boundaries. You need to enforce your boundaries to shine your brightest. Because you've set boundaries before. And you gave in. 😟 We all do it. This week, we will learn why trauma and crisis situations make it almost impossible to keep your promises to yourself, and the truth about what is really behind your need to please.

You'll learn the ONE simple trick can help you NEVER give in again, and how rules and laws can give you the mental and emotional space you need to gain clarity over ANY situation. 

Week 5: Planning to avoid the backslide! 

The biggest challenge we have when it comes to creating the healthy, loving, low-drama relationships that we want is avoiding the backslide into habitual behaviors, and trampling our own boundaries to avoid conflict. It's important to avoid falling into the vicious cycle of letting your fear take over your life. (If you don’t know the right and wrong way of dealing with your fear, it will eventually consume you and leave you feeling torn, confused or worried—as you already know).

This week, with your rules and laws in hand, we’ll share the BEST ways to overcome your uncertain feelings in any crisis, and how to start small, so you build confidence in advocating for you—every time!

Week 6: Build in Flexibility to accommodate change and growth

There are hundreds of reasons to be flexible. Boundaries are not set-it-and-forget it. As you go through life, you will change and learn new things about yourself. Also, boundaries are better when they are not only personal, but focused on the six human needs that apply to EVERY situation. 

During week 6 you’ll learn how and when to be flexible (and when 🚫 NOT 🚫 to).

Week 7: Look to the past to Troubleshoot the future

No matter how good someone is, readjusting boundaries can be hard for all parties. No one will get perfect overnight, but with each interaction, you have a chance to make things go better than they ever have before. Fears can influence you to give in (again), prolonging the manipulation and bad feelings. 

In week 7, we’re going to dig deeper into the challenging situations that we’ve faced in the past  (and will face in the future), and how to respond in the most self-validating way possible during crises (while also being compassionate to others ❤️). We’ll also discuss recognizing potential manipulation and abuse, and yeeting that shit. 👀

BONUS: Boundaries Are Sexy AF—The Book!

This workshop is all you need to get started creating your best boundaries NOW. If you’re the type of person who likes MORE, the type who does the deep dive, and wants to pick things apart, well, you’re in luck! You’ll also get a copy of Boundaries are Sexy AF (working title), the best boundaries book ever written! 📗 

Here are a few things I cover there: 

  • The Relationship between boundaries and trust—and why it matters. 
  • Why I think boundaries are sexy—and why you will, too!
  • When boundaries are manipulative—and what to do about it. 
  • Covert contracts—What they are, and how they are ruining your relationships.
  • How boundaries are related to ethics—and knowing this will open up a WHOLE new way to view life. 
  • The difference between having needs and being needy—and how boundaries will solve that problem once and for all. 
  • Moving on from past relationships—when you need to. 
  • Boundaries are not rejection—why this simple idea will radically change how you relate to others. 
  • Dealing with liars in your relationship—it's SO MUCH easier than you think!
  • Is it abuse? How to spot the signs, and avoid users, abusers, and jerks. 

BONUS: Learn To live with no regrets!

People LOVE being around people who love their own lives—it's the most powerful attractant out there! I’ll introduce you to the No Regrets! lifestyle with his mini-workshop, and get you started building the best life you can imagine (actually, better, really) while avoiding regrets. 😍🤩🥰 

You don't want to miss this radical new way of reducing drama, conflict and worry in your life—maybe even eliminating it!
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The Weekly Schedule

The program will be starting the week of [_____] and this will be the weekly schedule.

Before [_____], as you get registered, you'll be added to the Take No Shit community. You'll get your introduction added to the community forums, start learning how the tasks and habit tracker works, and learn your way around. 

You'll also be added immediately to the [TITLE] LiveWrite community, so you can start learning more about boundaries right away! 

Every Thursday

New lessons for the week will release every Thursday—just in time for you to plan some weekend time to work on you! Lessons are posted in video, audio, and written format—so no matter how you learn, you'll have access to the content you need! 

I'll go LIVE in a private event for you focused on one of the 7 weekly modules in a 90-minute session including a Q&A session at the end. 

Every Tuesday & Thursday

I do a new LIVE topic on YouTube and Facebook where I cover a deeper-dive boundary topic and answer questions live from ANYONE who joins. 

Questions for the LIVE sessions can always be pre-submitted, and all sessions are recorded and replays will be made available. 
And much more…this is just the beginning! 

This is my passion...

 
I wanted this Take No Shit Workshop to the the BEST workshop out there on setting personal boundaries, so I've not only lived out my best life, tesSharinting EVERYTHING a gazillion different ways, but for the last 15 years, I've been writing, teaching, and interviewing people around the world about their boundaries. 

People who said things like: 

  • "For 40+ years I had no boundaries."
  • "I had to kind of constantly learn to adapt as a child to my parents' signals and try to figure out what I had done wrong to cause them to react in the way that they did." 
  • "I felt like I was responsible for everybody else's reactions to me and everybody else's feelings towards me and what they were saying." 
  • "The two of us were not communicating very well at all, so we thought, okay, we're going to try some relationship counseling. That didn't really go great because I realized that, the core issue was that I was not being ME—I was never really allowed to be." 
  • "I've never wanted to be vulnerable with people. It took me ten years before I allowed myself to be vulnerable with my own husband." 
  • "I never learned how to communicate with people in relationships. I was a s***** teenager because that's how I got affection from them and attention, but like communication? Vulnerability? NO." 
  • "I've always been too vulnerable too fast. Like I wanted people to see the real me, and to give to me the love and care I offered them. To be trustworthy. That didn't work."

...Showing you a better way.

I've worked with and interviewed people who know a better way to love and experience extreme joy and authenticity: 

  • "I see improvements in relationships with every single one of my kids, with my husband, with all of my friends and those that couldn't get on board have had to, you know, go their own way—all thanks to boundaries."
  • "I started to connect with more strong smart humans who have had their own challenges and I've let go of the people in my life that just don't fit in to where I want to go and who I want to be."
  • "I had never had the confidence to do that before and to surround myself with people that bring me joy. I do now." 
  • "Life is way too short to be doing things that you don't enjoy and to be putting up with relationships and dealing with dynamics, that are not healthy or productive." 
  • "This is what I felt like I've been missing my entire life, you know?" 
  • "These are the people that I really want to connect with and I'm finding those people and appreciating that and I feel like I've just I'm surrounding myself with a circle of strong, educated like, smart, open-minded friends that are on my team. They are my people, and they are finding ME now." 
I've not only built my own successful relationship and amazing authentic life, but I've helped others do their same. I've written over 1500 articles on various relationship topics. I've mentored dozens of people. I've taught classes on love, sex and relationships (including alternative relationships and kink) all over the world. 

I've gotten the feedback and the questions through the years, and I've made that all a part of what I'm sharing with you. 

Because a friend of mine said to me one day, "Heather, that book is probably going to save lives," (about the book I'm writing right now), and I believed her, and I want to live up to that faith in me. 

And I want to give you the tools that I used to save myself.  

Do you know Who YOU are,
what you want your experiences to be,

And what types of people you want to share those experiences with?
Do you want to live more authentically? (Yes, of course you do!)
Do you want a life filled with people who love and appreciate YOU for exactly who you are.  (Yes, of course you do!)
Do you want to give and to receive deep love and passion from amazing people? (Yes, of course you do!)
Do you KNOW there is more out there for you in love and life? (Yes, of course you do—and you're ready to make it happen!) 
 
If you are tired of feeling like you are taken for granted, taken for a ride, and taken advantage of, and want more than anything to connect authentically and passionately in all your relationships, then I invite you to the Take No Shit Workshop.
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This is a Special Invitation.

I am currently creating the new Take No Shit workshop, and fine-tuning this for a big release. I've chosen a few specific groups of people to be a part of this at a VERY special price for this first time around. And YOU are one of those people. 
Lifetime access to the 7-week program materials.
Lifetime access to the community.
Lifetime access to the incubator.
Lifetime access to the group coaching.
LIVE Q&A sessions.
Instant access to the [TITLE] LiveWrite (and to the final digital book, when it's published)
Lifetime access to the No Regrets Lifestyle Mini-Workshop
80% off the cost of the program (or more!)
Not only that, but as a First Round Feedback Member, I am committed to delivering for you, and making this workshop the one that will change your life. I guarantee that you are going to get mind-blowing results.

So, unlike any other self-help program you may have tried in the past, failure is not an option. For either one of us.

I will drag you to the finish line if I have to…alright, maybe “drag” is a bit strong. But we will get you there, together. That is a promise.

are you ready to step up for you?

Don't you deserve healthy loving relationships, with less drama and conflict, and to live your most authentic life with No Regrets? 

Unlimited Access To All Lessons
+ Bonus Book + No Regrets Mini-Workshop
Special First Round Feedback Member Price:

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Or name your price for a limited time! (Minimum $7)
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I'm so confident that this course will improve your love and life  that I am giving you a no-risk guarantee just for giving it a try. If you don't feel like these lessons are working out for you, simply request a full refund within 90 days. No questions asked.

Most people Get this wrong...

They say, "Communication is the KEY to a good relationship." 

They are right-ish. 

It is A KEY. 

(I'm betting that you've tried that.) 

You've said what you feel over and over. And...crickets. 

Or fights. 

Fact of the matter is, most people don't know WHAT TO COMMUNICATE.   

Communicating authentically is HARD.  

  • Not saying one thing when you mean another (most people don't even know they are doing this!).
  • Not agreeing to something you don't want just to end the fight.
  • Not avoiding difficult conversations (and fighting over the little things, instead).
  • Not constantly compromising to keep the peace.
  • Not trying to manipulate and control your partner.
Oh, and the most important thing...

And NONE of it will work unless you communicate with someone who actually listens to what you have to say. 

Ooof. 

In short...

If you learn how to Take No Shit, your communication with people in your life will get better, because the people in your life will be better—to you and for you.

And I'm so confident that you're going to love what I have to share with you, that I'm going to give you a peek inside the workshop. 

That means creating and enforcing healthy boundaries. 

1. State your boundary. 

When going into a discussion about boundaries, especially when you are new to enforcing boundaries, it’s ideal if you can be as calm as possible.

People are generally more open to calm communication than to yelling and screaming.

If you can, talk with a friend or family member to vent or journal to take the edge off before starting the conversation.

It can help to plan what to say and how you want to say it.

A Quick Note From Heather...

Right now I'm giving you what many consider to be the key to setting and maintaining healthy personal boundaries in any relationship. I'm also going to share with you a powerful secret that will cut through all the bullshit you've been fed by others about personal boundaries, and jump-start your better boundaries journey. 

Sound like a good deal? Awesome. Let's get started then...

A. Use simple and direct language, and as much as possible focus on yourself and your feelings rather than others. “I statements.”

  • “When you did this, I felt that. Could you please not do that around me? I’d really appreciate it.”
  • “Can I get back to you on that? My time is really tight right now, and I would like to think things through before making a decision.”
  • “I feel like conversation degrades when we yell. If you continue, I’ll leave the room, and we can pick this up another time when we are both calmer.”

B. Boundaries are a right, and do not need to be defended, debated, or over-explained.

Be direct. Be honest. Be compassionate, if possible. Do not use boundary setting as an excuse to punish or to use brutal or attacking language.

C. Be ready to follow through on any statements.

I generally don’t suggest using ultimatums, except in the mildest sense. They often make people feel attacked, and shut off additional engagement.

However, if you do, like with the example about about leaving the room if they keep yelling, you have to be willing to follow through. If you do not follow through, you sabotage yourself and your boundaries, by broadcasting that you don’t value them enough to do what you say.

2. Wait and observe.

As I noted above, “boundaries are a right, and do not need to be defended, debated, or over-explained.” If someone wants to ask questions about your boundary to understand it better, well, it’s up to you to decide whether to answer them.

However, don't let anyone question whether your boundary is valid, or mire you in a discussion about the boundary’s existence.

1. State your boundary,
2. Make it clear that it matters to you, then
3. Watch to see what happens over time.

When someone who cares about you and your boundaries, you will likely notice an immediate effort to change, because they don’t want to hurt to harm you.

(Note that I say “effort to change,” not “change.” Some things can take time and reminders, and that’s important to honor.)

3. If you need to state it again, do so. 

(Possibly with a deeper explanation.)

If you don’t see change or effort to change, it’s possible that you caught them at a bad time last time, that your communication was less effective than it could have been, or that they need a bit…more…to get it through their thick skulls.

In a case like this, definitely take time to plan out the conversation if you can, since this is the big one.

Ask for a good time to discuss it, and make it clear that their actions are impacting you negatively. Give them every opportunity to understand how you feel.

4. Wait and observe (again).

This time, it can be helpful to plan out a few parameters:

  • How long are you willing to wait for change or at least honest effort?
  • How will you measure that change or honest effort?
  • Are you willing to offer help/reminders during this time?
(Be careful of nagging or constant correction—even if it works, you’ll likely foster some resentment for it.)

5. If your boundary is still not honored, you have a choice to make.

And this is where simple is really, really hard, sometimes. Because choosing to honor yourself and your boundaries can often mean letting someone go. Or reducing how you choose to interact with them.

Because you really don’t want to continue being harmed by them, do you?

You will probably FUBAR it.

You’ll probably royally fudge up in many different ways. It’s part of being human.

Here are a few common mistakes:

  • Mistaking a rule or manipulation for a personal boundary.
  • Using accusatory language.
  • Trying to “force” a behavior, rather than allowing the other person to make the change on their own.
  • Threatening or using ultimatums.
  • Making the stakes too high.
  • Allowing an exception and lowering your standards.
I’m sure there are dozens more.

But despite mistakes, if you practice enforcing your boundaries, you’ll get better.

I'll share A powerful Secret with you...

You know what was missing in those steps? 

Did you catch it? 

It's not easy to notice, unless you know to look for it, but it's something that MOST other relationship "coaches" and gurus spend a lot of time on:

Control.

There is no attempt to manipulate or control your partner in those steps. No trying to "make" them do this thing or behave that way. 

You'l find NONE of that in this workshop. Not a bit. You could call this the Take No Shit (and Give No Shit, either) Workshop and be spot on—that's just too long a title for my marketing, LOL! 

You know that it sucks when others control you (or attempt to control you) in relationships, right? You know how it sucks to feel used and manipulated, or pressured into doing things you don't want to do. 

If you're anything like me, you know EXACTLY how that feels, and you don't like it. 

So, why do so many relationship books and classes teach you to TAKE CONTROL. 

Is it somehow OK to control people when YOU are in charge instead of them? 

It's NOT about control.  

If control and manipulation are what you want from your relationships, you're not a good fit for Take No Shit.

Power games change making love into low-level warfare. Always jockeying for position in an adversarial drudgery. Someone is always walking on eggshells, worried that they might step wrong, and the other person is always watching carefully to make sure that no one steps out of line or threatens their control. 

Lay down your arms. 

Love should not be a conflict. You should not have to battle for your love every day of your life. 

You know what was else it's not about?

 Bargaining. 

No bargaining, no compromise (UGH, I HATE that word!), no pleading. 

bargain, v.
try to persuade someone to give more.

Creating healthy boundaries for yourself is the first step to creating a relationship where you give what makes you happy and fulfilled to give, and you receive what makes them happy and fulfilled to give you in return. 

Which, honestly, can sound pretty scary, if you've been used to pleading for every scrap you've gotten. 

But that knot in the pit of your gut? That cold ball of fear? That is EXACTLY why boundaries are important. Because as long as you bargain for your relationships, you'll have that there. And you'll be constantly taking shit (and shoveling it to your partner) to cover that feeling up. 

That's no way to love. 

That's no way to live. 

THERE IS ANOTHER WAY. 
“Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures.” —Edwin Louis Cole
ENROLL NOW
With just this one method you'd be able to walk away from this page and improve your own boundary setting and communication.

But you've read a lot already. You've tried everything that you've found online in the support groups and Q&A on social media.

It's exhausting. 

You want MORE.

You want a structure of coaching and support, with video, audio, worksheets, and a community working together to create healthy loving relationships, reducing drama and conflict, and living your most authentic lives. 

Because you thrive when you have people cheering you on, supporting your journey, and giving you fresh perspectives and feedback.

You're in the right place.

That's precisely why I've put Take No Shit together. To give you actionable content just like this with the support and encouragement you need to finally make the change you want in your life and your relationships.  

Using these methods have helped me transform my relationships from arguing and begging and abuse into a love story I could never have even imagined when I first started this journey. 

I've decided to put them all together in an easy to follow guide at an incredibly low price, and I'm inviting you to start your own journey towards boundless passion, deep love, and incomparable joy!

Meet Your Take No Shit Coach

Hi! I’m Heather, but most people call me Nookie. I’ve taken my own journey in designing the life I wanted (after an abusive marriage to an alcoholic with BPD), and now I'm teaching others that first step: Building better boundaries. 

I'm irreverent. I have lived an adventurous and non-traditional life: I’ve hitchhiked across the country, I’ve traveled and worked in a carnival for a season, I’ve roamed New York City with street people, I’ve explored (and taught) alternative lifestyles, I’m nonmonogamous, and I’ve learned a lot through my journey about boundaries. 

In my marriage (my first and only so far), I had craptaculous boundaries, and I paid the price in emotional abuse, shitty self-confidence, and all my money. 

I have a bit of a potty mouth. I enjoy making people smile and shocking them a bit, while giving them the tools they need to find more laughter, confidence, love and authenticity.  People tell me that what I teach them changes their lives, and if there is one thing I take seriously, it’s that commitment to you. *smiles* 

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